55-FACING SOCIETY

At 21 years of age, as planned, our imaginary young couple has decided to commit to marriage and have children. At this time, they are both in the final year of their respective bachelor’s degree. She has been accepted at a veterinary school, and he is to start his internship with a local architectural firm the following year.

Since the architectural firm and the veterinary school happen to be in the city where both their parents live, and since all four parents are anxious to have grandchildren, they will go ahead and have their first child in the summer months prior to her entering veterinary school. With so many available and willing babysitters, having her first child at that time will not interfere with her studies.

The first child turned out to be a boy, and the next few years were pure bliss as they got more involved in their individual fields of study and worked at making the third member of the family team feel welcome. Four years later, just before launching their professional careers, they had a girl, and the family team was getting ready to face the world.

The boy was about to start school, and they quickly realized how awesome a challenge that was. The traditional Judeo-Christian education system was not in sync with what he was being taught at home, and it had to be countered in three main areas: religion, evolution and reproduction. After meeting with the school principal, they were satisfied that he did not believe in nor promote creationism, and therefore, the child would be able to hold his own in the classroom and the schoolyard.

The 5-year-old has been introduced to Charles Darwin’s laws of natural selection and knows that all living things on earth come from a common life source that split up into different families. He knows that all living things like trees, fish, birds, and bears, and natural inanimate things like prairies, mountains and rivers are interconnected, and if all thrive, people thrive. He also knows that because humans are the only intelligent beings, they have the responsibility of protecting all the other living things along with their habitats.

He knows that when humans broke the time barrier and became intelligent a very long time ago, they became aware of their mortality. Overcome with fear, they tried to appease the spirits that surrounded them by invoking them in thousands of ways. When loved ones died, in order to show respect and make sure the spirit of the deceased was given time to leave the body and reach the world of spirits safely, they were interred. However, when writing came along some 5000 years ago, religious myths and doctrine started being put to paper in order to deal more effectively with the fears relating to death and afterlife. Judaism was the first monotheistic religion to be set to paper. Christianity followed around 4000 years later, and Islam 700 years after that. Though these three religions lay claim to one God, each group has a different prophet, namely Abraham, Jesus-Christ and Mohammed, to interpret His will. And because each group thinks its prophet knows best and is willing to fight the others to prove it, the boy has been told that it’s wise not to join these groups, and instead, to live at peace with the spirits of the natural world by respecting and protecting their habitats. Like his parents, he has a deep respect for Mother Nature, the giver of life, and like them, he believes that all matter is part of a whole. Like his parents he believes there is no hard and fast distinction between the spiritual and physical world, and that ‘soul’ is not limited to humans. All living things, all the mountains and rivers, all the seasons and forests, and all the natural entities have essence, and their presence affects our lives as we affect theirs.

He also knows that all living things are forced to eat, drink, breathe and reproduce. He knows how plants, bees and salmons reproduce, and although he knows he comes from his mom’s belly, he doesn’t yet know how that happens. In time, he will be told how his body will be transformed and forced to reproduce just like all other living things. For now, his parents are dreading the moment he will start asking pointed questions, but when he does, he will get precise answers. He will be told that giving life is the most awesome thing one can do. He’s been told that though many people abuse that privilege, those who understand and respect it are certain of having a fulfilled life.

Like his parents, he will speak softly and carry a big stick when challenged on those questions. He’ll never refute one’s belief in a creator or a god, but if asked, he will clearly state that he believes that Mother Nature is all powerful, and though he doesn’t understand that force, he can easily observe it, and he respects it. He will never put down those who speak to god through prayer, and he will not take sides regarding the different prophets. That should keep him out of trouble in the school yard.

He has been told time and time again by both parents that he was always wanted, that he is loved and that he is an indispensable part of the family. He has always been told that he may not know as many things as his parents, but he is surely as quick witted as they are, and perhaps even more so. So, he is to make his own choices in life, and his parents will always be there to help him and defend him no matter what he does. If they disagree with the path he follows or the decisions he makes, they will tell him so, and why. If and when they give their advice on a given matter, he knows it will be with his well-being in mind. They want to have him around for a very long time, and later, when he decides to create his own family, they want him to be doing what he loves to do for a living and have someone intimate to share his life with. If he has a good life, it will make them happy, especially if he has children and doesn’t live far away.

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51-SEX AND CHRISTIANITY

As we became sedentary, life got easier for the males who exploited the weaker members of the group, which included men, women and children. The lords would send out warring parties in order to grab land, women and anything else of value. The men fought and hunted for the master while the women and children worked his fields by hand. The women were treated like cattle. As long as they could give pleasure to the master, work his fields and give him healthy offspring, they were kept and fed.

As the lords increased in power and number, some of their male offspring had more idle time, more time to think. This led to the development of reading and writing, which became a source of perceived supernatural power. As the lords wielded ever greater power over their serfs, they tried to organize them in more efficient and orderly ways. This led to the creation of religions, for those who possessed the written word were thought to be in contact with a higher being. Instilling fear in humans by saying that a god or gods would judge them after death, and send the docile ones to heaven and the unruly ones to hell, was such a successful tactic that it is still in use today. First came Judaism 4kya, followed by Hinduism 3kya, Christianity in 325CE, and Islam in 610CE.

With regards to the Christian Church, the Founding Fathers decided that their religion, the Roman state religion, would apply to all. So, they proceeded to force everyone in the Western Roman Empire to accept the Nicene Creed. They decreed that the new Apollonius, the one they now called Christ, was the Son of God and not a prophet like the Essenes had always believed. In the process, the Christian Church perpetrated one of the worst blood baths in history as millions of Essenes, who weren’t inclined to accept this new doctrine, were either tortured or massacred.

In the meantime, learned scholars with a lot of imagination were plagiarizing all the popular existing myths in order to create the New Testament. They were intent on writing a plausible story of the new Apollonius, while making a few nips and tucks in order to suit the Roman way of life, for the new Apollonius, now called Christ, just couldn’t be a teetotalling vegetarian. Meat and wine had to be added to his diet, and appropriate miracles were incorporated into the New Testament to make this acceptable. And as the Christian Church built infrastructure throughout the Roman Empire, which included monasteries, convents and churches, the poor felt protected and connected for the first time in their history and were quite willing to accept the Nicene Creed. The next step was to anoint Absolute Kings of Divine Right to rule over the different parts of what is today Europe, starting with Clovis in 581CE. Then the Church Fathers, in their effort to create a peaceful and orderly society, promoted monogamy as a reproductive solution. Although it was a needed development and improved the female condition, it was also limiting, in that it meant that married women now had to submit to their husband in every way.

Later, during the colonial period, when the Christian Church became the unofficial Church of North and South America, and as the USA developed into a world power in the 20th century, Christian doctrine spread far and wide. The archaic views of the Christian Church, Catholic or Protestant, on matrimony and reproduction have barely changed. The Church Fathers meant well when they made monogamy and matrimony the social standards, but unfortunately, in the process, it institutionalized male domination.

The Church had a hard time dealing with sexuality, and the Adam and Eve story shows it was very macho from the very beginning. As the story goes, it was Adam who gave birth to Eve with his rib, and it was Eve who made Adam fall from grace. As first man and woman, they were to procreate, but when they started playing house, that is, when Eve had Adam bite into the apple of the forbidden tree, they were chased out of Eden for trying to do just that. Not very shrewd on the part of a master creator! However, the trick was then to have everybody believe that God changed his mind and sent his son down on earth to die on the cross in order to redeem humans from their ‘original sin’, or the ‘reproduction curse’, that was sending hominids straight to hell. Thereafter, if one wanted to go to Eden after death, all he had to do was get baptised in order to be relieved from the ‘original sin’, the ‘existential sin’, or the ‘sin of the flesh’, depending on one’s interpretation.

Because the Church Fathers were very uncomfortable dealing with sex, they devised myths of their own. For instance, they made sure that the mother of the Son of God was a virgin, for such a mother could not be a lowly animal that fornicated. They followed that up by having the faithful believe they were created in the image of God as well, and therefore, did not have sex like animals, but made love.

Ever since women have been unwittingly cast in the role of Eve. They are the morally questionable ones who lead men astray. But luckily for mankind, the Son of God, a man, came to save humanity from the mess caused by Eve. Very macho indeed! That line of thinking is propagated to this day. Let’s take the AIDS epidemic where the media seem to imply that it’s the females who communicate AIDS to the males. Science tells us that the AIDS virus is transmitted by blood contact, and that it was men who were first contaminated when they practised bestiality on primates in Congo. Having sex with a primate can’t happen in the best of conditions to say the least, and when it occurred, it caused lesions to the human penis, and hence the infection. Once infected, human males transmitted it to their partners, male or female, by practising sodomy. The anus not being designed to be penetrated by a penis, lesions in that area necessarily resulted, followed by infection. As for the women who became infected mothers, they transmitted it to their children through the umbilical chord. The fact that it’s the men who are the root cause of this disease is never made clear in the media or in our schools. Why do women continue to bear the brunt of such ignorance, and worse, let themselves be sodomized?

As the Church went forward with its ‘reproduction’ agenda, it continued preaching the 10 Commandments and the ‘you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife’ theme. Monogamy was definitely on their mind, but it wasn’t until the 12th century that the Church made matrimony a sacrament and institutionalized male domination. The bride was told that she had to ‘submit herself unto her own husband as unto the Lord, for as Christ is Head of His Church, so is the husband head of his wife.’ In Pre-Cana, she was even told that she couldn’t deny sex to her husband, use any form of contraception, nor derive pleasure from the sexual act.

It is reasonable to conclude that although the Christian Church gave us social order by keeping the threat of damnation ever present in our minds, and made monogamy the social norm, it did little to emancipate women.

50-TAMING THE ANS

When Christianity was created in 325CE on the premise that we were godlike creatures, not animals, it did everything it could to make us ignore our ANS. Our Judeo-Christian world was built in a scientific vacuum, and if science plays such a large part in our world today, it’s thanks to the bankers who created the Bank of England in 1694, which allowed them to invest in R&D at will. The world of plenty being the result of those investments, today, many of us completely ignore that we must still answer to our ANS on a daily basis like all the other animals on earth. It is almost impossible to put ourselves in the situation of the Andes Crash Disaster where normal well-educated people were forced to resort to cannibalism in order to survive.

We are genetically programmed to go to extremes to survive, and we will eat our fellow humans, drink our urine, and have sex in most violent ways in order to do so. In order to survive, we have a few minutes to get air, a few days to get water, a month or so to get food, and a few years to reproduce, and thanks to our ANS, we are constantly reminded of that, and we must consciously respond to it on an ongoing basis. Fortunately, because we live in a world of plenty, we are rarely challenged by hunger and thirst, for all we have to do is grab a bag of chips and a pop as we go about our daily activities. The only worry we have is that of becoming obese. As for urination and defecation, since early 20th century, there are toilets all over the place, and we take those bodily functions in stride. Of the five bodily functions that demand our constant attention, hunger, thirst, defecation, urination and sexual drive, the latter creates the most havoc in our lives because it is the only one we haven’t learned to deal with. Today, because it only takes a few hours of work a week to ensure our survival, where, not so long ago, finding food, water and shelter was an around the clock ordeal, we have a lot of time on our hands, and we spend an inordinately amount of that time dealing with our sex drive and everything relating to it. Needless to say, it creates quite an imbalance in our lives, and it’s causing us a lot of grief.

We started using tools around 3 million years ago (mya), and by the time we mastered the art of fire making, around 1mya, we were still hunters and gatherers. The ability to make tools and fire was a considerable advance in our evolution, but it was only when we decided to settle down, some 20 thousand years ago (kya) that we started being the humans we are today. That’s when we unwittingly started to respond to our ANS in an organized way. We began planting and growing food in order to store it and avoid famine down the road. We built shelters close to a good water supply, on land where things grew, and realizing that there was strength in numbers, we started associating with other groups.

As hamlets grew, humans soon realized that they had to do something about their body waste. Stench and pestilence had to be dealt with if they planned on living together. As wanderers, it was something they had never thought about. But now, they had to think not only about growing food and having a steady supply of clean water, but also of getting rid of human waste that fouled their living space. However, it was only until very recently, at the very end of the 19th century, that thirst, hunger, urination and defecation, our main ANS imperatives, were dealt with in a systematic way. That was when electricity made tap water and water treatment plants common place, and when grocery stores abounded.

We may have learned to deal with thirst, hunger, urination and defecation, but we definitely haven’t regarding sex. Over the millennia, instead of learning to control our sex drive, we gave it free rein. When we started growing food some 20kya, life got easier, and since sex was a source of intense pleasure, the males did what came naturally by putting more emphasis on having sex. And the stronger and wilier males, realizing that dominating the physically weaker females, whether in estrus or not, was a way of experiencing sexual pleasure, did just that.

Prior to our breaking the time barrier, the alpha males dominated the lower order males, and the alpha females dominated the lower order females in order to establish hierarchy within the group. The alpha male serviced all the females when they were in estrus, hence willing, and everybody was happy except for the frustrated lower order males, for being deprived of reproduction privileges meant they were deprived of sexual pleasure. Since sexual pleasure is Mother Nature’s way of forcing us to reproduce, and since they had no access to the females, they were often irritated. But after we left the world of natural selection, the lower order males found ways to outwit the alpha and started physically dominating the females in order to get sexual pleasure. It was a complete reversal of fortune for the female gender. Now, all the lower order males dominated the females whom they treated as sex objects, reproducers and field hands. The female ceased to be the equal partner of the male, and we still see the remnants of that in our society today. It could be said that intelligence is what caused this mess, and only by using intelligence can we re-establish a true social equilibrium.

However, things did get a little better for women 5kya. As leisure time became more plentiful, there were more idle males, and they developed reading and writing, which in turn gave rise to religions. It was still very much a macho world, but the threat of bad gods who were aware of the males’ atrocious behavior and could send them to hell or some such place after death, made them sit up and listen. When the Christian religion was created in 325CE, it started enforcing the concept of monogamous unions, and thereon in, the males had to put their penis in check when they went into society, although they could still do what they wanted at home.

47-THE PILL

In early 20th century, people moved to the cities in tandem with the arrival of electricity, tap water, toilets and jobs. It was the beginning of tangible societal empowerment. In 1913, the bankers in the City created the US Federal Reserve Board, and it officially opened the door to globalization. The first item on the City’s agenda was the bulldozing of the Ancien Regime countries of the Holy Roman Empire in Europe, as well as Tsarist Russia, the Ottoman Empire, Japan and China. Although the two World Wars that followed created havoc in America, the result was mostly positive for the women who got good paying jobs. After WWII, because America was now considered to be an Eldorado, all the citizens of the world wanted to go to that great land in order to create wealth, and a lot was created in a very short period of time.

People experienced greater comforts and prospects, and as societal empowerment took root, it was the males who got the diplomas, the managerial responsibilities, and the investing and inventing opportunities. Males were cast in the ‘father knows best’ role, and that didn’t augur well for the females. Although some women got jobs, they were of the office secretarial staff and factory production line variety. The parents wanted their sons to have a good education, get a good job, make good money, and marry a good woman, while for the daughters, it sufficed to get a good man, a ‘somebody’. The world continued to be very macho because women’s ambitions were geared to that of their men.

However, in 1920, after the passing of the 19th amendment, women got the right to vote, own property, and manage their bank account without their husband’s permission. After WWII, there was a move to the suburbs and the good life, and that’s when the real trouble started. It was the beginning of a world of comfort, leisure and plenty, a world for which our specie is absolutely not genetically programmed. The desperate housewife was being born.

The women had to wait for the 1960’s and the advent of the pill in order to be emancipated in a real sense. That’s when they were freed from male sexual domination and abuse, at least in part. For the first time in 3 million years they could claim that they were in charge of their own body, and free to decide whether to have children or not. But though the females did gain some sexual freedom, social parity remained very much out of reach.

Genetically, women are programmed to get the best male with the best genes, as dictated by natural selection. But when we left the world of natural selection some three million years ago, though our genetic make-up remained unchanged, the relationship between males and females took an abrupt turn for the worse. So, at the first opportunity, that is, in the 20th century, women unwittingly attempted to go back to the good old natural selection days when they were the ones who more or less ran things. But unfortunately, instead of consciously trying to reclaim their social role of old, they decided to make themselves more attractive and concentrate their energies on getting themselves a potential male alpha. They didn’t know at the time that fighting for emancipation by attracting pseudo alpha males with their badge of femininity would not only be a missed opportunity, but a disastrous social experiment as well.

The male entrepreneurs were quick to exploit that sexual aberration by taking charge of the fashion world generally, like they had Hollywood years before. The badge of femininity, as a symbol of independence and success, was adopted with a vengeance when technicolor hit the big screen in 1936, and especially the small screen in 1966. As they did so, the women naturally morphed into Barbies, and it made many heterosexual and homosexual males of the fashion and cosmetic world very rich. In wearing her mask, the female couldn’t hope to find a partner who was her equal and a job worthy of her potential, and she was an easy prey for any lame alpha male who came along. Establishing a meaningful relationship was almost an impossibility. She certainly wasn’t aware that wearing the badge in order to get a man or a job was not only ugly and vulgar, but counterproductive as well. To be fair, the pill had hit the market like a tsunami, and overwhelmed, women had responded instinctively by looking for an alpha male like they had always had in the world of natural selection millions of years before. Unfortunately, they weren’t aware that wearing the badge was putting a damper on their chances for gaining independence and parity.

It now seems obvious that if women are to achieve social equality and parity, they must discard the badge of femininity as an absolute prerequisite. They have to fight tooth and nail for equal education and equal jobs for equal pay, and getting free universal child care and parental leave, and having access to pro-choice clinics, are all a must. Women would be well advised to stop making their quest for alpha males a priority, for ever since we left the world of natural selection, the alpha males simply no longer exist. The alpha male of old was objective in his role and was concerned with the welfare of the group, whereas today, the perceived alpha male only wants to feed his ego. The female should look for an ordinary loving man like her in order to build and share the joys of a family and life in general, instead of looking for a virtual Adonis.

In our intelligent world, the secret is to find a partner with whom we can establish a lifelong relationship based on trust, honesty, and respect. And if equality and parity are to be achieved, women have to stop using sexuality as a tool, and throw their badge of femininity in the trash can. It can be done. If Marlboro Man, the macho man, was dethroned years back, surely Barbie, the bimbo, can be as well today.