54-THE COUPLE

With regards to the hypothetical couple that I’ve chosen, both partners are eighteen years of age and heterosexual. They have been having regular sex for two years with both their parents’ approval, and they are both intent on avoiding disease and pregnancy. She has an LARC arm implant, and they can’t get enough of each other, so for now, fidelity and pregnancy are not a problem. They both agree to be answerable to all four parents who support them unconditionally, and this fosters mutual affection and trust.

They share thoughts and feelings concerning their parents, siblings, teachers, friends and pets, and talk about everything under the sun. They have read theworldofgam.com, and are aware they are living in the best of all possible worlds. They know they are animals that have become intelligent, and that, as intelligent animals, they have the possibility of exercising some control over their autonomic nervous system. If they succeed in curbing the disruptive forces of their ANS, mainly with regards to reproduction, they can look forward to a lifelong relationship in a happy family context.

They are aware that all beings are beautiful and fulfilled when in a nurturing or creative mode, and that’s why they both want to form a lifelong family team and do what they love doing for a living. They have just finished high school, but do not plan to go to college until they are absolutely sure of what they want to do for a living. For now, he wants to become an architect. He has been working summers for a local building contractor and the latter has agreed to employ him full time. His passion is to conceive and eventually build self-sustaining buildings. She is very interested in animals and wants to be a veterinarian. After working summers at a local zoo, she has been offered an assistant’s position fulltime. Her passion is living with plants and animals and learning how to take care of them. They will rent a modest house on the outskirts of the city in order to have the full experience of living together. They want the responsibilities of looking after a house, having a garden and pets, and doing daily chores. His father gave them his car when he upgraded to a hybrid, and that takes care of transportation. They are committed to living together three years, and will not marry or have kids till the end of that period, if they so decide. If one of them changes his or her mind during the trial period, they will go their separate ways, no matter how painful. All four parents are partners to this agreement and will support them in any way they can.

As they go about working in the real world as apprentices, they will pay for their own living expenses. As for college tuition, their parents have already planned ahead by creating a fund for that very purpose. In the meantime, they will glean all the knowledge they possibly can from their coworkers, and sign up for all pertinent online university courses while waiting to register at university in order to terminate their degrees, and pursue their life’s passion.

They are active teens who jog and swim on a regular basis and will continue to do so. They will each have a smartphone, but will use them strictly for meaningful communication. Like her mother, she refuses to wear the badge of femininity, no matter how great the social pressures. But of course, she doesn’t intend giving up on bizarre hairdos, fun clothing, and junky jewellery. They intend to cut the cable and stick to reading, watching movies and making and listening to music. Inviting friends over for simple home prepared meals made with natural ingredients will be a lot of fun. His father already makes his own wine, and he plans to team up with him. Making wine with his dad will be a nice way for them to bond, and enjoying the odd glass of wine with his wife-to-be and friends over home-cooked meals will make for heart-warming experiences.

Accumulating wealth will never be their main objective. However, because they live in a world where it’s rather easy to make money, it’s not to be dismissed out of hand. Real estate values tend to rise, so owning one’s own home is a starting point. As for making real money, the couple will sit down and decide which multinational they want working for them. They’ll choose one that makes things they personally believe in and that are indispensable to the human race, like food, transport, communication, biotechnology and energy. Once they’re convinced they have the right company, they’ll buy shares in it every time they have spare money. Buying shares via the internet is a rather cheap and easy way to go about doing just that. Once the shares are bought, they’ll forget about them. They’ll never play the market. Their capital will grow as the world markets grow, and by adding to their capital little by little, down the road, they’ll have more than enough for their children’s education and their own retirement. If they adopt a healthy lifestyle, are passionate about their work, own their own home, and invest their extra cash in their chosen multinationals, they’ll have done away with most material obstacles that usually prove disastrous to young married couples, and thus be free to have and raise children. However, the greatest destructive force that they’ll have to face in their relationship is still lurking in the wings.

Because they have read theworldofgam.com, this young couple knows that most males are genetically programmed to reproduce well into old age whereas all females cease to reproduce at menopause. They know that though both their sex drive will diminish as they grow older, his ANS may incite him to reproduce with younger women, and therefore, they must get ready to counter such an eventuality. If, instead of facing the problem, they insist on being defined by their libido, he will sow his oats afield, she will look for a more stable alpha, and they’ll end up divorcing.

Fortunately, they know that human means intelligent, and that they have some say in complying with their ANS. For instance, if one is hungry, one can have an apple or a processed meat sandwich, and if one is thirsty, one can have a glass of water or a can of pop laced with sugar. The individual has no choice but to quench his thirst or satiate his hunger, but because he’s intelligent, he can choose how to do it, and with what. In a similar manner, will can be applied to reproducing, and that’s the secret to countering the destructive forces of the ANS. If we don’t eat and drink properly, we may become obese, and if we don’t reproduce properly, we will probably have a disastrous lonely life. So, if the couple is to survive the midlife crisis, they both have to fully understand and accept the reality of their evolution and their ANS.

They know they are animals that became intelligent when hominids broke the time barrier some three million years ago. They know that being intelligent means they can connect past experiences with the present, and use that knowledge to make a better future. They know that sex is not love. Sex is forced upon them by their ANS in order to reproduce, whereas love is the result of intimacy which depends on education, and hence, intelligence. All beings are forced to have sex, regardless of specie, therefore, when the couple’s sex life is on the wane and his ANS incites him to look at younger women, they’ll both know what’s happening and he will categorically refuse to take Viagra or give in to his ANS. They are fortunate to be intimate with each other, both intellectually and physically, so when they hit the WALL, having always refused to let their libido define them as humans, she may even be able to poke fun at him when he starts looking sideways at younger women.

Their love will grow as their family grows, and not much self-control will be needed to resist his having sex with a stranger, for who would knowingly risk losing the warmth and joy that a loving family provides, and that took years to build, in order to try sashimi served by a young geisha? Regardless, as their mutual affection grows, and as they go gaga over their grandchildren, they’ll both know that destroying their family life for a furtive romp in the sack with another is totally insane. Love will win over sex, especially if they are fully aware of the pressures that the ANS is putting on them, and they are.

If they’re really lucky, they’ll discover that one of the most beautiful things in the world, is growing old gracefully. An older woman sitting at her computer writing her book, nursing an animal back to health in her veterinarian clinic, or giving TLC to the plants in her garden, are beautiful sights to behold. And what about an older man teaching his grandson how to build a tree house, or his granddaughter how to play violin! What’s so bad about growing old? Does the woman have to become a wrinkled Barbie, or the man a ridiculous Casanova?

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49-ANS

Autonomic nervous system

If we study group behavior among our chimpanzee cousins, and if we accept the fact we were exactly like them prior to our breaking the time barrier, we can learn a lot about ourselves. In the wild, alpha males dominate physically in a passive way. They play an important role in the survival of the specie by spreading the best available genes while protecting the females and their offspring. But it’s the wily alpha females who lead the group to food sources and water holes and teach the extended family members the necessary survival skills.

Since we became intelligent, the female’s role has changed, but genetically, she hasn’t. As far as the specie is concerned, she is as invaluable as she ever was. But it seems that the opinion she has of herself has seriously deteriorated, and we should want to remedy that. To my way of thinking the three main culprits, when explaining the injustices done to the female, have to do with our breaking the time barrier, with her reproduction lifespan, and the Christian Church’s attitude towards her gender.

We have already seen in a previous posting how unkind nature was to women, when after breaking the time barrier and leaving the world of natural selection, some three million years ago, the males started dominating the females physically. But before I attempt to show how her reproduction lifespan and Christianity dampened her aspirations for freedom and equality, I think it would be helpful to better understand what ANS is.

All vertebrates have a reptilian brain sitting atop the spinal cord consisting mainly of the hypothalamus which links the endocrine and nervous systems. It’s the autonomic nervous system control center (ANS) that regulates bodily functions such as heart rate, digestion, respiratory rate, pupillary response, urination, defecation, and sexual arousal without our conscious intervention. If we are to focus on our human values and establish parity between the sexes, we have to become more familiar with that primitive brain that can only be synced up with our human brain if we intervene consciously.

When the dinosaurs disappeared some 65 million years ago, we were small burrowing mammals and we lived by our fight-or-flight and feed-or-breed instincts. Danger was everywhere, in our burrows and in the sky above, and the constant stress we experienced was such that we didn’t live much longer than rodents do. However, as our modern brain developed, we learned to sort things out, and as our daily survival stress was reduced, we lived longer. We acquired a limbic brain, then a cortex and neocortex grafted themselves onto the limbic brain, and as little as 3 million years ago, we had the wherewithal to break the time barrier as explained in an earlier posting. Thereafter, though we were no longer subjected to the processes of ‘natural selection’ and ‘survival of the fittest’, our reptilian brain kept operating as it always had, and it caused havoc within the specie.

From the very moment we became intelligent, our brain gave us the means to live in sync with our ANS, but our will has always tended to falter when it came to our sex drive. Being fully aware of the exquisite and gratuitous pleasure that an orgasm procures, and with ever more time on our hands, when we became horny, we just didn’t try very hard to put on the brakes. Nonetheless, right up to the 20th century, we depended on the family for survival, and because we didn’t want to be shunned by it, we felt obliged to use some degree of self-discipline in order to control our urges. But when societal empowerment kicked in, fashion ads, social media, celebrity lifestyles and Hollywood seriously encouraged us to adopt lascivious and superficial behaviors. We still followed the group, but the group was becoming virtual and was being driven by the collective ANS.

We can’t escape the fact that sex is forced upon us by Mother Nature, and that we have no choice but to comply. It is all the more reason to be aware of this archaic breed-or-feed instinct that’s taking over our lives, and to establish education programs to help us channel it. Sex is a lot of fun and indispensable, but we have to put it in its proper place by using the brain we acquired as humans. Why do teachers, mothers and fathers have so much trouble explaining sex to children?

Ask any 10-year-old child what he or she thinks about dad sticking his penis into mom in order to make a baby, and he will quickly respond by saying that it’s gross. Perhaps that’s the reason untold generations have refused to talk openly about sex with children, but perhaps it’s simply because adults unwittingly want to cover up the fact that sex is ugly. Sticking a penis or a tongue in the vagina, the anus or the mouth of another isn’t beautiful. Hollywood, the media, and Christianity make it sound attractive or at least acceptable for their own purposes, and because we’re intelligent monkeys and don’t want to be labeled prudish, we adopt and even defend those view points. The end result is that though the ugliness of the act makes us uncomfortable, we act as though it’s cool. The only time we are totally in tune with our sex drive is when we’re horny, a time when we are forced to blindly answer nature’s call.

For the most part, horniness is brought on independently of our will, and when men are in that state, they may even go so far as to kill someone who stands in the way of their penetrating the targeted body in order to inject their semen. And women, of course, also display despicable behaviors when determined to get their man. So, how can we explain such behavior except to say that when our ANS forces us to reproduce, we sometimes go completely out of control, and adopt horrid behaviors? Traditionally, the group has tried to control sexual behavior by insisting on no sex before marriage, pretending sex is love, dressing it up socially, and condemning-confessing-repenting-forgiving the act, but those are band-aid approaches. We would be much better off if we faced the problem head on in a scientific and objective manner through education.

We can’t deny the beauty of some courtship displays preceding the sex act, and the sheer joy felt when welcoming a newborn into the world. When we write love poems, slow dance, walk hand in hand, whisper sweet nothings to each other, hug and look at each other languorously, what could be more beautiful? When we go gaga over a newborn, need we explain that feeling? But the middle game where one’s body penetrates or is penetrated by another is ugly, no matter what the fashion magazines or Hollywood tell us, show us, or imply regarding the matter. Penetrating the mouth, the anus or the vagina of another with one’s body parts is no prettier than the act of ejecting urine, excrement or vomit.

Nonetheless, excluding our sex drive, we did learn over time to deal with some of our ANS instincts in our daily imperatives. The use of knives and forks is today common, and we no longer act like pigs when we eat. And what about toilets and bathrooms that made urination and defecation banal? But we definitely haven’t learned to deal with fornication where a partner is indispensable. We willingly give in to it if we’re horny, drunk or drugged, that is, when we don’t have to think about it, but because we still refuse to face the issue in a rational manner, we continue to make a mess of it. For centuries, thanks in part to the sacrament of matrimony instituted by the Christian Church, we have amalgamated the words sex and love in order to deal with the grossness of the sexual act being forced upon us. And if we’re not sure of how we feel about the sexual act, all we have to do is picture the next-door neighbor copulating with his wife, and that should give us the answer.

46-EMPOWERMENT

Hopefully, my blog has so far succeeded in convincing some readers that we live in the best of all possible worlds, that there will never be another world war, and that the final obstacle to globalization, the oil patch unrest, will soon become a figment of our collective memory. We have Mayer Amschel, the greatest man who ever lived, and that I call Big Brother, to thank for that. Yes, we are in safe hands and free to enjoy a great quality of life like at no other time in human history. This is true in spite of the fact that the Gorgon Sisters brandish the crop more than ever, in wanting to make us believe just the opposite in order to keep us in line. But if we believe that our world is financially controlled by Mayer’s dynasty in the City, we can be sure that it is the prime defender of its great creation, and consequently, leading stressful lives doesn’t make sense.

I’d like to suggest that if we lead stressful lives it’s because we’re overwhelmed by societal empowerment. Big Brother, a great family man, who was born in a ghetto in Frankfurt, in 1744, where he lived all his life in complete anonymity, most certainly didn’t foresee this outcome. One thing is certain, if we believed in the existence and achievements of that great man, we would know that his descendants in the City are hell bent on protecting the great world he created, and that knowledge would dissipate our stress.

Regardless, whether we believe in Big Brother or not, we can’t deny that in the last 100 years, humans have been seriously empowered as a specie. Democracy, or the world of credit as I call it, is the greatest gift mankind ever received, and it has proven to be the ultimate political system, particularly since the turn of the 20th century when it really got going. In making credit available to the lowest rungs of society, Mayer and his banking dynasty in the City have given mankind the means to know freedom, security, prosperity and leisure, beyond belief.

But democracy has turned out to be a double-edged sword. In the last hundred years, the fantastic societal empowerment that it provided mankind has almost completely supplanted personal empowerment. We have stopped appreciating our fundamental values by disconnecting from the natural world. We have become intoxicated with societal empowerment to the point where we ignore our true nature. We want a bigger salary, a bigger house, bigger car, and more of everything instead of wanting what makes us happy. Our disposition to want to show we’re important, young, rich, and beautiful has taken over our lives.

The world of credit as we know it today was created in 1810, in the City, but as far as we mere mortals are concerned, it only got going at the start of the 20th century. At that time, individual empowerment was still at a high. ‘Little house on the prairie’, ‘The Walton’s’, and other television series portrayed that successful family way of life. Bringing in a crop, raising healthy farm animals, feeding the family, and building a homestead for sheltering a family and welcoming friends and neighbours were fulfilling activities. Our ancestors worried at times, but it never constituted stress, that is, the permanent nebulous state of anxiety many of us experience today.

Societal empowerment started in 325 CE when the newly entrenched and official Roman state religion, the Christian religion, gained political control of the Western Roman Empire and invaded it like a hermit crab. Gradually, Rome’s anointed absolute kings of divine right ruled over Europe, forcing the Nicene Creed down everybody’s throat and committing mindboggling atrocities in the process. In spite of all that, common man was valorized and empowered for the first time. Christians were told they were created in the image of God and went to heaven if they obeyed the 10 Commandments. If they didn’t, they ended up in burning hell for eternity. It was up to them. Unfortunately, or more exactly, fortunately, because the Holy See and its Kings of Divine Right were so exclusive and cruel, they made two deadly enemies, the Jews and the Huguenots (French Protestants).

These two persecuted groups managed to join forces in Amsterdam in 1602 before moving to the City, in London, in 1688, where they established the world’s first democracy. At first, only merchants and privileged citizens voted and benefitted from the system, but in time, universal suffrage allowed everybody to participate. Today, in all the democracies of the world, the citizens elect representatives to vote in the laws, and if they obey those laws, they get a job and receive a salary, if not, they face unemployment or jail. Most people earn a salary, and that is what societal empowerment is all about. Everybody is empowered more or less in that way, from the President, the Queen and the Pope on down

Christianity and Democracy have always been romanticized, and most of us are unaware of the real forces that created them in 325 CE and 1689 CE respectively. That’s perhaps because many of us entertain a vague feeling of having been lied to, and we don’t trust history books. Or maybe it’s because we are constantly fed convoluted information that fails to address the money trail of history, and we have more important things to do anyway, like thumbing our smartphones.

No matter, if we accept the fact that intelligence is a consequence of our breaking the time barrier, and that the more we are able to connect past events with future ones, the more intelligent we are, we must conclude that we are going backwards. Letting our minds be overtaken by historical amnesia and forever demanding to be fed more misinformation junk by the Gorgon Sisters via our smartphones, instead of trying to understand how Christianity and Democracy were created, explains the stress we are presently experiencing.

Personal empowerment has to do with basic human values, whereas societal empowerment has to do with doing as the group does. While basic human values are those of all living things and are fulfilling, societal values are moral in nature and are simply meant to make the group function. The solution is to learn to live with the smartphone while giving top priority to our basic human values. However, since we’re not genetically programmed for a world of comfort and leisure, our archaic survival instincts of ‘fight or flight’ and ‘feed or breed’ still have a hold on us, and they can only be processed efficiently by our brain if we are aware of them and will them into submission.

When we were little burrowing animals, around 65 million years ago, we were constantly wary of the dangers in and around our burrow, and in the sky above it. We grabbed any food at hand, and reproduced using the wham-bam thank you ma’am method. We were constantly on the alert and permanently stressed. Today, we feel threatened by the real or perceived threats of the whole world, we grab junk food and fast food on the go, and we use the wham-bam thank you ma’am approach to sex more than ever. Are we going backwards?

All living beings on earth are beautiful and fulfilled when they are in a nurturing or creative mode, so that’s what we should strive for if we want to free ourselves of stress. Creating a lasting family group, and finding what we love to do and doing it for a living, should definitely be our main aspirations. In the last 100 years, Big Brother has created an environment that allows us to easily do just that, yet our primal instincts make us do the exact opposite, the too many divorces that produce hordes of emotionally crippled children and the ongoing battle for high-paying stressful jobs being sufficient proof.

All living beings on earth are beautiful and fulfilled when they are in a nurturing or creative mode, so that’s what we should strive for if we want to free ourselves of stress. Creating a lasting family group and finding what we love to do and doing it for a living, should definitely be our main aspirations. In the last 100 years, Big Brother has created an environment that allows us to easily do just that, yet our primal instincts make us do the exact opposite, the too many divorces that produce hordes of emotionally crippled children and the ongoing battle for high-paying stressful jobs being sufficient proof.

The 20th century has afforded us great freedoms and comforts, but that’s turned out not to be such a good thing because we are not genetically programmed for a world of leisure. Women are the most disadvantaged in the current context, and though they did carry out a sexual revolution in the latter part of the 20th century, it was far from being a real victory. No matter, male or female, if we learn to differentiate between self-empowerment exemplified by a Charles Ingalls and societal empowerment typified by a Donald Trump, and if we make the right life choice, all is not lost.

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