3mya, when hominids became intelligent, it meant they had the ability to connect past experiences with future actions. Naturally, they were no longer subjected to the laws of natural selection. So, after many millennia of sexual frustration, the lower order males were now able to devise ways to outsmart the alpha male in order to access the females and fornicate. Realizing that they could experience sexual pleasure without waiting for the females to be in estrus, the males started forcing themselves on the physically weaker gender at will. In time, the genetic pool deteriorated, and it proved to be a double catastrophe for the females, for the males now started to be selective as well.
The males, however, shouldn’t be blamed for this turn of events. Intelligence allowed them to follow the path of least resistance in order to give free expression to their sexual drive, and they simply took it. Like water and electricity, and other forces in the universe, humans are wired to take the path of least resistance. But in order for intelligent individuals to live in a group, there has to be rules and controls. In the natural selection environment of old, the male alpha used muscle in order to establish order, spread the best genes and ensure the survival of the group, but when hominids left that world, those controls disappeared, and humans had to devise new ones. Around 5kya, they did just that by creating writing, reading, and religion.
Nonetheless, women kept being treated like inferior beings. They were used as field hands and baby machines, and they were sold and bought in sophisticated ways by means of a dowry or a bride price. If the fathers wanted to get rid of extra daughters, they paid a dowry, if a family wanted to achieve a higher social rank by associating with a higher-ranking family through marriage, it paid a bride price. Women had no say, they could be marketed at any age, and all that mattered was that they be a virgin. Of course, making sure the young girls remained virgins meant they were even more mistreated by their fathers and even their brothers. On the other hand, if women learned to read and write, they were perceived as a threat to males, and the macho society would accuse them of witchcraft, burn them at the stake, or send them to rot in convents or some such place.
It was only in 1600CE, when the world of credit took root in Amsterdam, that women began entertaining the possibility of emancipation. When the Sephardim and the Huguenots created the East India Company in Amsterdam, in 1602, they ruled the oceans of the world and slowly wrenched world financial power away from the Holy Roman Empire, the Christian Church, in the process. In 1688, they moved their headquarters to the City in London, and created the first democracy. Women did not yet vote and weren’t allowed to own property, but they started earning money in their homes. When Mayer created his bank, the Bank of North America in 1781, it was another major step forward for women. But the real change occurred when Mayer’s son, Nathan, took control of the Bank of England in 1810. It marked the beginning of international banking, and as more credit was made available to the masses, women started working for wages, and were thus gradually emancipated in a real sense. Nonetheless, women had to wait until 1920 in order to get the right to vote, but when they did, it was a point of no return. Once the macho world was undermined, it was only a question of time before women could claim social equality. And when the pill was marketed in the 60’s, it put them on the road to full emancipation.
But the post-war years, as far as female emancipation is concerned, was also a time when the proverbial dung hit the fan, for that’s when women opted to wear the badge of femininity instead of insisting on equality. They chose the worst remedy of all by concentrating their efforts on getting themselves an alpha male by means of seduction in order to advance their social position. But who can blame them for using that approach? After going through 3my of mistreatment, and especially 2ky of macho Christian doctrine, they were totally brainwashed into thinking they were inferior to men. So, they figured if they seduced and snagged an alpha male like they were genetically programmed to have, they could achieve emancipation through him. Unfortunately, they didn’t realize that the alpha male of the natural selection era no longer existed. They didn’t know that the men prancing around looking like male alphas were mainly interested in advancing their own agenda. And the fact that Hollywood was endorsing sexual relationships with virtual alphas as the ultimate form of social success, and the fact that sex was on everybody’s mind, was not meant to help. Understandably, it was only natural for the pseudo alpha males to have sex as often as they could with the want-to-be bimbos by telling them how wonderful and needed they were, and the females believed them.
Though it was natural for the women to adopt the badge of femininity in wanting to look like the Hollywood stars and get themselves an alpha, they soon realized they weren’t getting the desired results and wondered why. That’s when they discovered that aging was an even bigger problem. They deduced that males stopped wanting to have sex with them when they reached menopause. But why didn’t men like mature partners like women did? They simply didn’t know that males are genetically polygamous and programmed to reproduce well past middle age, and that if the female is no longer able to reproduce, the male’s ANS no longer incites him to have sex with her. After suffering mistreatment at the hands of males for 3my, and being subjected to Christian macho doctrine for 2ky, now that she was emancipated, she was being hit with a third bolt of lightning, the genetic quirks of the male’s ANS.
How are women expected to deal with this genetic injustice? That is the question. If women completely discarded the badge of femininity, men and women, the women leading the way, would be more inclined to have genuine relationships based on trust, honesty and respect, instead of sex. But because we left the world of natural selection, because we live in a world of plenty, because we give free rein to our sex drive instead of curbing it, because we measure our self worth against our libido, because we fornicate mainly for pleasure, because men are genetically polygamous and live by the rules of monogamy, our specie has become unnatural and stressed.
We have to get back to some form of equilibrium, and perhaps the only way to do that is to understand our ANS as explained in an earlier posting. If we choose to be monogamous and have a family, it must be for life. We don’t have to get married, for we have the wherewithal to have sex while avoiding pregnancy and disease, but if we do, it should be for the duration and for the purpose of raising a family. Loving and nurturing one’s children, and later, one’s grand-children, is the greatest human experience of all, but we have to make it happen, it’s not free. Forever wanting more, bigger and better stuff in order to feel important, and changing pseudo life partners on a whim is not the way to go. If we choose to be bonded with another, the strength gained in sharing makes us feel secure, gives us confidence and encourages us to do what we love to do. And as we age, the love and satisfaction generated within the family largely compensates for the effort required to keep our sexual drive under control. Sex is not love. Sex is a violent temporary action imposed on us by our ANS while love is the art of being intimate and sharing the joys of raising a family over a whole lifetime.